WAYS TO GET ALONG BETTER WITH EVERYONE
I've said this before and I'll say it again, in fact, I'll be the first to admit, I'm not perfect. I'm not a perfect daughter, sister, mother, friend, lover, nor am I a perfect child of God. But while admitting this, I am also ready to say that I try to live my life, right, and if I'm wrong, I will be the first to admit that too.
In saying this, 2006 was going to be my year to try and live my life right by others and more so in living it right for myself. I allowed myself to live a life for the last six years with someone that fell in several of the following descriptions:
Psychological egoism (also known as psychological hedonism), Rational egoism, Ethical egoism. I can honestly say that such characteristics in one person can be very detrimental to those around them. I'm learning to notice such characteristics and to live my life as such that I would not be so self absorbed and bring harm to those around me because of my self-interest.
These 11 ways of getting along better with everyone is something to take to heart. There are many things within me that I still need to work on, and I can only hope that I already live by some of these rules and that I can engrave a few others in my mind and in my heart.
1. Before you say anything, ask yourself three things: (1) Is it true? (2) Is it kind? (3) Is it necessary?
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.
3. Never miss the opportunity to compliment or to say something encouraging to someone.
4. Refuse to talk negatively about others. Don't gossip and don't listen to gossip.
5. Have a forgiving view of people. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss, but don't argue. (It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.)
7. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000.
8. Let your virtues speak for themselves.
9. If someone criticizes you, see if there is any truth to what he/she is saying. If so, make changes. If there is no truth to the criticism, ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative.
10. Cultivate your sense of humor. Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
11. "Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console; do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand; do not seek so much to be loved, as to love."
In saying this, 2006 was going to be my year to try and live my life right by others and more so in living it right for myself. I allowed myself to live a life for the last six years with someone that fell in several of the following descriptions:
Psychological egoism (also known as psychological hedonism), Rational egoism, Ethical egoism. I can honestly say that such characteristics in one person can be very detrimental to those around them. I'm learning to notice such characteristics and to live my life as such that I would not be so self absorbed and bring harm to those around me because of my self-interest.
These 11 ways of getting along better with everyone is something to take to heart. There are many things within me that I still need to work on, and I can only hope that I already live by some of these rules and that I can engrave a few others in my mind and in my heart.
1. Before you say anything, ask yourself three things: (1) Is it true? (2) Is it kind? (3) Is it necessary?
2. Make promises sparingly and keep them faithfully.
3. Never miss the opportunity to compliment or to say something encouraging to someone.
4. Refuse to talk negatively about others. Don't gossip and don't listen to gossip.
5. Have a forgiving view of people. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
6. Keep an open mind. Discuss, but don't argue. (It is possible to disagree without being disagreeable.)
7. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000.
8. Let your virtues speak for themselves.
9. If someone criticizes you, see if there is any truth to what he/she is saying. If so, make changes. If there is no truth to the criticism, ignore it and live so that no one will believe the negative.
10. Cultivate your sense of humor. Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.
11. "Do not seek so much to be consoled, as to console; do not seek so much to be understood, as to understand; do not seek so much to be loved, as to love."
posted by a faith bigger than fear at Sunday, June 18, 2006
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