Relationships and Strategies
Life has been such an interesting rollercoaster these last several months... but the focal point of life these days is "strategy".
Intensifying strategies - further the relationship (ex. meeting old friend, bringing the other to meet family, becoming more affectionate, etc.)
We all have a strategy when it comes to either "playing" people, spouses, children, friends, dates, bosses, co-workers, etc, etc, etc... To get what we want, to lead them to believe that it's their idea from the get-go. Relationships seem to start off this way. It's not a bad thing... we want what we want in life and we go after it. Sometimes whatever it takes. From the minute you find someone interesting, we all strategize,
Men: they will paint the picture of a very normal, strong minded, well balanced, endearing, open minded, and understanding to the womanly ways type of man... Men: will dress (hopefully) to impress as well.
Women: we will "dress" the part to have them forget their strategy and have them at our feet, that's just to start for "us" women. We will bat our eyes, toss our head to the side and play with it. We don’t always make eye contact, we’ll play coy, innocent, just a tad vulnerable, but not enough to show us we are naïve and weak, we don’t try to come across as loud or wild ((we hold that for the second, maybe third date) or at least some of us do lol… I’m a different story, totally different mold that I was made from…let’s not go in to what our discussion was on our first date shall we? HA!!! Was it strategy though on my part... think about it!!!)
We check each other out from the minute we make eye contact. Size each other up and decide right then and there, what our strategy will be to either
A). Lure them in to our web
B). How long we want to play “innocent” and “good” (for those of us that aren’t)
C). How long before we do “give” in to the cardinal ways for those of us that are good (cough, cough, sorry a Cheetos got stuck in my throat).
D). Send them on their way and allow it to be their idea of "It's not going to work".
F). Or play hard ball and be upfront and to the point of what we want out of this date.
Here of recent... a few blogs have been posted in reference to new relationships and the bringing of "unknown" and "weird" even "unwelcomed" items in to a shower, kitchen, or bedroom... lol... Let's see if my memory recalls it all well, remember, I'm aging, so some of this might be a bit sketchy...but...
Men are normally set in their ways, especially after being bachelors for about 1 to 4 years of single life!! ;) They woo you and court you to get a relationship going...and once it happens and you make that brave first step of staying the night for the first time, we as women want to do the best to present ourselves to this man that has been "blessed" (LOL…Did I say blessed? I mean WORTHY…I’m sorry, did I say worthy?) with our presence for the night and the next morning. So what does that mean? We take an overnight bag with as few essentials that will get us through the night and morning without scaring the hell out of the man as if we were moving in, sending him off running or us packing! HA! So... things are noticed on behalf of the man (we women are more discreet of the changes that need to be made)... the differences between the males and woman's home. Bathroom... soaps, shampoo, conditioner, loofahs, shaving creams, deodorants...RAZORS even. I’m working on it as we speak, trying to minimize and live simple. Meanwhile, I’m looking at making a shopping trip to Bed, Bath and Beyond here in a few days. I have the curtains already in mind, the kitchen is next… I’m getting excited now… The bedroom will be the last room to hit, I have to look for something that will go with all the Gun and Ammo that is displayed in the bedroom. I’m up for any suggestions! (LMAO)
To shed some serious light to those forlorn, hopeless romantics…here are a few sites to start with…
Relationships…
Romantic Relationships and Valentine's Day
"Love is magical! It is wonderful. It is not a state of being which we can get into and stay in. It is a dynamic, changing process.
Healthy Romantic Relationships
"You are not going to live happily-ever-after once you find your prince or princess. There is no happily-ever-after on this plane of existence. You may find your prince or princess but they will have issues to deal with. Relationships are something that needs to be worked on - not some magic wand that makes everybody happy."
An Adventure in Romance - Loving and Losing Successfully
"Is she/he my Twin Soul? Or an Angel sent by my Twin Soul to prepare me for our reunion. Will it happen in this lifetime? Or the next?
LIFE IS GOOD!
Intensifying strategies - further the relationship (ex. meeting old friend, bringing the other to meet family, becoming more affectionate, etc.)
We all have a strategy when it comes to either "playing" people, spouses, children, friends, dates, bosses, co-workers, etc, etc, etc... To get what we want, to lead them to believe that it's their idea from the get-go. Relationships seem to start off this way. It's not a bad thing... we want what we want in life and we go after it. Sometimes whatever it takes. From the minute you find someone interesting, we all strategize,
Men: they will paint the picture of a very normal, strong minded, well balanced, endearing, open minded, and understanding to the womanly ways type of man... Men: will dress (hopefully) to impress as well.
Women: we will "dress" the part to have them forget their strategy and have them at our feet, that's just to start for "us" women. We will bat our eyes, toss our head to the side and play with it. We don’t always make eye contact, we’ll play coy, innocent, just a tad vulnerable, but not enough to show us we are naïve and weak, we don’t try to come across as loud or wild ((we hold that for the second, maybe third date) or at least some of us do lol… I’m a different story, totally different mold that I was made from…let’s not go in to what our discussion was on our first date shall we? HA!!! Was it strategy though on my part... think about it!!!)
We check each other out from the minute we make eye contact. Size each other up and decide right then and there, what our strategy will be to either
A). Lure them in to our web
B). How long we want to play “innocent” and “good” (for those of us that aren’t)
C). How long before we do “give” in to the cardinal ways for those of us that are good (cough, cough, sorry a Cheetos got stuck in my throat).
D). Send them on their way and allow it to be their idea of "It's not going to work".
F). Or play hard ball and be upfront and to the point of what we want out of this date.
- A Friend
- A Girlfriend/Boyfriend
- A Wife/Husband
- A Roll in the Hay
- A Fuck Buddy
- A Friend with Benefits (there’s a difference between 5 and 6)
- A Soul Mate
- Hardcore Sex for whenever the NEED is strong
- A Drinking Buddy
- Someone to pick us up off the floor and lean on when life is dishing out Bullshit!
Here of recent... a few blogs have been posted in reference to new relationships and the bringing of "unknown" and "weird" even "unwelcomed" items in to a shower, kitchen, or bedroom... lol... Let's see if my memory recalls it all well, remember, I'm aging, so some of this might be a bit sketchy...but...
Men are normally set in their ways, especially after being bachelors for about 1 to 4 years of single life!! ;) They woo you and court you to get a relationship going...and once it happens and you make that brave first step of staying the night for the first time, we as women want to do the best to present ourselves to this man that has been "blessed" (LOL…Did I say blessed? I mean WORTHY…I’m sorry, did I say worthy?) with our presence for the night and the next morning. So what does that mean? We take an overnight bag with as few essentials that will get us through the night and morning without scaring the hell out of the man as if we were moving in, sending him off running or us packing! HA! So... things are noticed on behalf of the man (we women are more discreet of the changes that need to be made)... the differences between the males and woman's home. Bathroom... soaps, shampoo, conditioner, loofahs, shaving creams, deodorants...RAZORS even. I’m working on it as we speak, trying to minimize and live simple. Meanwhile, I’m looking at making a shopping trip to Bed, Bath and Beyond here in a few days. I have the curtains already in mind, the kitchen is next… I’m getting excited now… The bedroom will be the last room to hit, I have to look for something that will go with all the Gun and Ammo that is displayed in the bedroom. I’m up for any suggestions! (LMAO)
To shed some serious light to those forlorn, hopeless romantics…here are a few sites to start with…
Relationships…
Romantic Relationships and Valentine's Day
"Love is magical! It is wonderful. It is not a state of being which we can get into and stay in. It is a dynamic, changing process.
Healthy Romantic Relationships
"You are not going to live happily-ever-after once you find your prince or princess. There is no happily-ever-after on this plane of existence. You may find your prince or princess but they will have issues to deal with. Relationships are something that needs to be worked on - not some magic wand that makes everybody happy."
An Adventure in Romance - Loving and Losing Successfully
"Is she/he my Twin Soul? Or an Angel sent by my Twin Soul to prepare me for our reunion. Will it happen in this lifetime? Or the next?
LIFE IS GOOD!
Labels: Nesting
posted by a faith bigger than fear at Monday, February 20, 2006
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